Submissive Journey

So I’m on a journey now to write about the one thing we are commanded to do as a wife.

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefor, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:22-24

Be submissive.  How do you become one? Where do you start? What is it?

I mean, in the Bible, that’s how it says to be a good wife.  To be submissive.  I’m like yea, ok….??  What is that? How do you do it?  The one command God gives us as a wife and I don’t want to screw it up! To me it sounds like some sort of 50 Shades.  Yes, I know that sounds really bad/dirty/sinful.  But with your husband in a loving, sensual way, how do you become submissive?

Is it doing your best?  Making sure we don’t take advantage of how good they are to us, and how hard they work.

Playing nice. Not to nag.  Do we do enough for our husbands?  Yes we cook/clean/laundry, the necessities for our families to take care of them and their well being.  But, what do our husbands’ need?

Time.

I know my husband loves his time. He works so much and doesn’t really get to spend enough time with the family or on his own hobbies.  I tried to allow him time for both and not over power our schedule with lot of activities.  He is definitely an introvert.  So I allow him in the evenings to work on his car or motorcycle with the girls as I cook dinner or  do a few chores.  It gives me time to do my duties and him time to spend with the girls as well as his hobby.  My blogging hobby comes at night when I can be alone away from everything and everyone.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my family, but sometimes we need our space and alone time too so we can self-care.

Connection. 

Keeping the connection.  Remember when you first met and you wanted to be with each other 24/7.  You missed each other.  You remember the way they would do certain things or have certain quirks.  When you hold hands, do you still feel safe?  Do you still have that trust and know that for better or for worse you are always going to be there for each other?

Intimacy. 

How intimate are we with our husbands?  Do we still show the pizzazz to him?  Do we take care of ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually so that he still sees us as who we are, who he fell in love with, and not some scary troll who we’ve turned into because we have self-pity parties with ice-cream and donuts.  Have we forgotten who we are?

Now I’m not saying to be the size and weight we were when we first started dating.  Heck, he’s not even that.  But to be happy and confident in our own skin and healthy, not skinny.  If we feel good about ourselves, others around us will feel good too.  If we feel like crap, look like crap, then you may feel like you are treated like crap.  We have to feel and look the way we want to be treated.  If you want to be a princess be a princess!  You deserve it!

To be submissive to our husbands starts with ourselves. 

We have to love ourselves I we expect love from someone else.  And We must love ourselves if we want to love our husbands.  We can’t be submissive and show our husbands love if we can’t love ourselves.  Once we do that, we will have an endless marriage.