Becoming Mom
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Gotcha Day Year Two
Two years today I became a mom. I’ve always been a parent, ever since we got the girls. Because when you foster or are a guardian, you are not only the child’s caregiver, but a mentor. As a result, you teach them to survive in this world, learn the basic skills they need, schooling, but most important, love and safety. You are their safe haven. This is what being a parent is all about. No matter if you are a friend, aunt, grandma, teacher. Kids need a safe haven. Two years ago at the adoption, I became more than a parent. I became a mom. Knowing you have a child…
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This is a Woman’s World, so Let’s Talk about IT!
Oh no no no no no. These were the words that came out of my child’s mouth after having the “woman talk.” But she absorbed. Had a few questions. And I survived. We mostly talked about being a woman and changes. Her cousin came to visit, and had just had the changes. There were so many questions from my daughter. What’s in the special bag in the bathroom? Why does she look so different. Finally the night before my daughter’s 9th birthday, we talked. There’s really no glorious book out there or way to say it. You just rip it off like a bandaid. But it’s nothing to be ashamed…
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True girl true colors
Before quarantine and COVID, my daughter and I attend a true girl convention in town. It was a pajama party. We had so much fun and drew closer to each other through the night. I enjoyed seeing God work through my girl, and watching her worship God in her own unique way. My girl has gone through a lot during her 8 almost 9 years of living here on earth. But, through all she has been through, she hasn’t let it steal her joy. She is my opposite yet we are the same! Saturday mornings (ok every morning) is like clockwork. She is the little bird chirping and singing in…
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Don’t Let Covid Control You
So with the covid 19…. many Americans and ppl all over the world are in front of more electronics than ever. Sending silly memes or filling out stupid surveys. What are some ways mommy blogs and be apart of it? Activities with your kids Self love for you So many times we have these great ideas! Why not share with other moms and the whole world so that they too can benefit. The virus is very scary for us and for our children. Part of their life, school, friends, parts you don’t see everyday has been taken away from them. What are some productive things we as parents can do…
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Expectations of a Mom
I just have to say moms have so many more expectations these days! We work outside the home inside the home volunteer at school do projects go on field trips. We are expected to do all these things! When I was growing up, we didn’t dress up as old ladies, we didn’t have Pinterest moms. They worked and managed to whip up dinner every night. They ran us around to ball games on Thursday’s piano on Mondays and church Wednesday’s and Sundays. We only watched tv during TGIF family game night or Saturday mornings after we did our chores. After that, outside we went no matter what the weather was.…
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Goals for 2020
Slow to speak and slow to anger. Lord this is so hard for me right now. I mean how do other moms do it? You tell your kids over and over until your blue in the face and they still don’t do it. The frustration and exhaustion. Eventually you’ve had it. My goals for 2020 are to show more love and kindness to my children and instead of anger and registration. Spend more quality time with my husband instead of my social media hours. Lord, help me to show the love and kindness to my children and husband for 2020. I’m looking forward to see what is has in store…
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Social Suckers
Social Media is My Soul Sucker I’m pretty sure that social media and Facebook has triggered my ADD inside of me. I use to be always pretty focused. I never thought I had ADD. However, as I have gotten older and more stress I have a hard time focusing. Facebook doesn’t help. I’ll start to shop for something, and then I see something else. Then I got to Facebook, and then I decide to look on Instagram. Then I try to Google the first thing I was looking for. Before you know it, I get back on Facebook and I forget to order Christmas! It is two weeks till Christmas…
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Pennies from Heaven
Five years ago my world felt like someone gut punched me in the stomach. Finding out about my infertility was no joke. Learning I had a tubal pregnancy that turned into a tubal disease blocking me from ever having children of my own was the worst. The doctor, no bed side manner at all. She acted like it was no big deal and we would just make it happen. I trust God and his timing and these past five years I have grown to trust him even more. I did not believe in playing God. Today I went in for my yearly. The lady in the car beside me apologized…
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Mom Truths
Man talk about mom truths It is December 1st and I still don’t have my tree up. My house is a disaster. I also barely have any Christmas shopping done. Not sure why but this past week I have been in a funk and decided to put myself first. I ran a 5k, had lunch date with my girls, pedicures, and slept in. But now I feel like a mom fail in life. Where has the time gone, how do people balance, and why does self care entitle feeling like a slacker after? The Friends Feast We had a Friendsgiving or what my daughter calls Friends Feast. I think that.…
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Boundaries
Moms need them. When we are depressed and don’t want to be touched, When we need to set aside time to go to the gym, Leaving the dishes to get those 8 hrs of sleep. Waking up before your kids to get those extra done, Locking the door to your bathroom so you can escape in the bubbles. Saying no to extra money from weekend calls so you can spend those Saturdays with your kids and Sunday’s with your parents. Boundaries are necessary if you love yourself.
